Coyote’s Howl

Part 9 of the Two-Wolves Story Arc

Howling Coyote on White
Kit was resting, recovering from some injuries, when Coyote returned carrying a recently killed badger.

“I’ve brought some excellent food!” said Coyote. “There’s nothing like fresh meat to help your body replace a little lost blood.”

“That is very generous of you,” said Kit. “Perhaps I could eat the heart and other organs.”

“Eat all of it,” said Coyote. “I have been quite the warrior this morning and have already eaten a squirrel and many termites. Don’t let any of this delicious badger go to waste. That, too, is part of the Gift of Respect.”

“I do respect the sacrifice made by Badger so that I could have some fresh meat. But…, I need fire to be able to eat all that meat.”

“That must be one reason why I always smell fire smoke when I use my scout skills to observe human beings,” said Coyote. “Many times have I tested my stealth skills by watching human beings as they gather around a fire. Frankly, your dogs pay more attention than most of your people!”

“I do miss fire. But I am a bear now and bears don’t use fire,” said Kit.

“Silly young person. I thought we agreed that you are both a bear and a human being. I’ve seen you make sharp pieces of rock to cut food. Why not use other human tools?”

“I don’t know…. Besides, it’s hard to make fire! I’ve seen it done many times, and I think I remember how….”

Kit looked around, and only a few feet away was a sage bush.

“That sage bush is a good plant for making fire,” said Kit.

“Well, that, I would like to see!” said Coyote.

Inspired by Coyote’s curiosity, and especially inspired by the idea of eating some cooked meat, Kit decided to try and make fire.

Using a sharp piece of rock, Kit cut off parts of the sage bush. Kit knew that fast work would be needed if the meat was to be cooked before going bad. Kit made a base-board and a long straight rod. Kit then gathered some dry grasses and ripped up other dry wood, making a bundle that looked a bit like a squirrel’s nest. Kit also gathered other dry wood that was nearby, sorting it into different size pieces.

Coyote watched, amazed, as Kit took the rod and spun it as fast as possible, back and forth, on a notch cut into the baseboard. Smoke started to rise from the board! After a great deal of effort, and what appeared to be many failed attempts, Kit suddenly dropped the rod and gentle tapped a small glowing coal into the bundle. Kit blew into the thin line of smoke rising from the bundle, and, it burst into flame!

Kit and the Many Moths

Part 8 of the Two-Wolves Story Arc

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After a beautiful sunrise, Kit and Coyote set out once again. Coyote was quickly down the trail. Kit took a last look at the land they would likely travel today, and then headed toward the trail.

Kit was quite hungry this morning and noticed a field of rocks off to the side, filled by many moths. This will be an easy meal, thought Kit.

The footing was very tricky on this steep slope, covered with flat rocks of varying sizes. It turned out to be harder to catch those moths than Kit expected. Kit got about half-way down the slope, grabbed at a moth, and with the slip of a rock, the world suddenly switched to a kind of slow motion….

For a strangely extended second, Kit felt suspended in mid-air, almost lying flat above the earth. Then…, wham! Kit’s breath exploded as back, hip, and thigh smacked into the rocks. Kit’s vision narrowed to a long black tunnel, and an eagle’s scream pierced the sky!

Kit lay still.

Kit Learns that Fear Clouds a Clear Mind

Part 7 of the Two-Wolves Story Arc

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For the past few days Kit and Coyote journeyed together. Coyote would serve as scout, reporting back to Kit once or twice during the day and spending the night together.

During the day time check-in’s, the focus was on basic survival needs – where Kit could find water and possibly food. At night, Coyote and Kit would pick a spot to shelter. Coyote liked to be up high where there was a view of the land. Kit and Coyote would talk about The-Way-of-The-Scout and about Coyote-Thinking.

“Once you have Clear Vision and Clear Heart,” said Coyote, “the next stage of Coyote-Thinking is to develop Clear Mind.

“It will be rare when your vision and heart are perfectly clear. Still, there are many techniques that will help you find a Clear Mind. Following The-Way-of-The-Scout will help.

“The Scout always seeks to improve knowledge of the three-zones of awareness: what is going on inside your own body, what is going on in your immediate surroundings, and what is going on in the larger surrounding.

“To be more aware of what is going on in your own body, many people use meditation and relaxation exercises. Anyone can learn how to do this. With enough practice, anyone can become a master.

“To be more aware of what is going on in your immediate surrounding, there are sensory exercises, such as owl eyes, deer ears, and fox walking that can be learned and mastered. Part of awareness is learning how to be a skilled observer.

“To be more aware of your larger surrounding, there are ways of sensing the connections between your immediate surroundings and the larger world. All life creates ripples, like an acorn hitting a still pond. These circles impact the circles created by others, and so on, stretching far across the world.

“The Scout must become a master of awareness, a master of seeing connections, and then must report the truth of the world as seen through honest eyes. To do that, The Scout must be aware of fear. Fear, more than anything else, clouds the mind.”

“I know about Fear-of-The-Cold and Fear-of-Being-Alone,” said Kit. “Fear-of-The-Cold is the fear that you will not be able to survive the world. Sometimes the world is just too difficult a place. Fear-of-Being-Alone is the fear that by yourself you will fail.”

“So, to have Clear Mind, you must address those fears,” said Coyote.

“Well…,” said Kit, “I know that the Gifts of Respect and Love will counter those fears.”

“More accurately,” said Coyote, “experiencing and expressing Respect and Love will keep those fears from growing too strong. That is The-Way-of-The-Artist.

“The-Way-of-The-Scout takes a more planned approach. Fear-of-The-Cold is addressed by planning how to get your basic survival needs met: shelter, water, food. What skills do you already have to be safe? What skills do you need to add?

“Fear-of-Being-Alone is addressed by having allies. Even now, Eagle keeps an eye on you each day. Bear and Buffalo are waiting for you to report back to them. All the animals from the Great-Council have promised to help you. What allies do you have? What allies can you gain?

“It is a sense of belonging that gives The Scout the heart to explore,” said Coyote.

“I still find this to be a difficult journey,” said Kit.

“When we explore,” said Coyote, “we must address a new fear that emerges, the fear of becoming lost. This fear takes two forms. Fear-of-The-Woods represents the fear of becoming lost in the world, unable to find the proper path. Fear-of-The-Dark represents the fear of becoming lost in your own mind.”

“When I still lived with my mom and dad, they would warn us not to wander off in the woods,” said Kit.

“Yes, when we are all very young, we feel the need to explore, but have not yet experienced Fear-of-The-Woods. That is one reason why the young need to be kept sheltered and safe,” said Coyote. “When we get older we need to seek Truth.”

“What do you mean?” asked Kit.

Kit Learns about Clear Vision and Clear Heart

Part 6 of the Two-Wolves Story Arc

Coyote Leaping on White
Kit had spent weeks wandering the South-lands, looking for the Spirit-Keeper of the South. No one seemed able to point the way. Fortunately, Kit had learned an exercise from King Snake, called Snake-at-Rest breathing that helped with feeling frustrated.

In talking to Coyote, Kit realized that the problem wasn’t really finding the Spirit-Keeper. The bigger problem, the journey Kit was on, was to find out what it means to be a human being.

“Yesterday,” said Coyote, “I told you that Coyote-Thinking is like making a journey map. You start with your immediate problem in the middle part of your map. Then, to understand the boundaries of your map you look to the four directions.

“In the north, you seek Clear Vision. You want a clear perspective on what larger journey you are on. Recognize that whatever your immediate problem, it is but a waypoint on your map. It’s a temporary destination that points the way, but it is not the whole journey.”

“I think I understand the northern boundary of my journey map,” said Kit. “Finding the Spirit-Keeper, or even learning all there is to know about the two wolves and the 7 Fears and the 7 Gifts, are just waypoints on my journey. The real problem, what I was asked to do by Chief Buffalo, is help the animals better understand human beings.”

“That seems much more clear. Well done, Kit,” said Coyote. “This will be a difficult journey. There will be times when you want to quit. So next you must seek a Clear Heart. You must strengthen your will-power by knowing WHY you are willing to take this journey.”

“Take your bigger, Clear Vision, and turn to the eastern boundary of your journey map. You must seek a Clear Heart. You must put into words as many of the reasons as possible for WHY you are on this journey. What will success feel like for you? What will it mean for others?”

“Having a Clear Heart is not easy,” said Kit. “This has been a difficult and frustrating journey. Part of me feels like just giving up. I guess I’m just curious about the two-wolves that Raven told me are always battling inside all human beings.”

“Curiosity is a powerful motivator,” said Coyote. “It’s gotten me into a lot of trouble, and its taught me a lot about the world and about myself. You must think more about this. Why are you curious about human beings? Why not just live your life and not worry about these confusing things? What will this knowledge do for you? What will it do for others?”

“I’ll need to think about that. I do want some answers for myself. I am proud to be a bear. The bears have been very good to me. But I am also a human being. I would know better what that means. Besides, I told Chief Buffalo that I would help the animals to better understand human beings…. Can I still move on to the other steps of Coyote-Thinking or do I need more for a Clear Heart?”

“Often times one must journey without a perfect map,” said Coyote. “Most of the time, we all have mixed feelings. It is, at best, a temporary thing to actually have a Clear Heart. What’s important is to keep seeking your ‘why’.

“Your reasons, your feelings, for why you are on a journey, instead of just staying in the same spot, may be difficult to put into words,” pointed out Coyote. “But you should try. It is the act of trying to put your feelings and your motivations into words that is important. Each day, as you learn more, you should work on clarifying the boundaries of your journey map. When you have a Clear Heart, it is much easier to have a Clear Mind.

“A Clear Mind makes up the southern boundary of your journey map. To keep a Clear Mind, you will have to learn The-Way-of-the-Scout. You will need to develop your scout skills and you will need to address the fears that all beings have. Fear will cloud the mind.”

“With Clear Heart and Clear Mind, you will then be ready to define the western boundary of your journey map – Clear Actions. But this is too much to learn all at once. For today, let us journey together. Perhaps you can reach one of the waypoints on your trip and you can work on having a Clear Heart.”

“It will be good to have some company today. I have been feeling too alone here in the south,” said Kit.

“Then we will journey together for a time. I’ll tell you a story about Coyote-Thinking while we start out. Coyote-Thinking can be used for small problems as well as large.

Kit Learns Coyote-Thinking

Part 5 of the Two-Wolves Story Arc

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Kit had been exploring the South-lands for many weeks. As the land changed, Kit stayed close to the few streams in the area. Every day Kit practiced Snake-at-Rest breathing. Kit saw few animals, but always asked for help in finding the Spirit-Keeper of the South. Unfortunately, no one pointed Kit in a particular direction.

Kit did get the impression that the Spirit-Keeper moved around a lot, but still didn’t even know which animal was the Spirit-Keeper of the South! Kit became more frustrated as the stream being followed became smaller and smaller.

Kit felt a lot of respect for King Snake and so practiced Snake-at-Rest breathing every day. Kit had to be patient because, to be honest, Kit didn’t really feel any different. Sometimes, it made Kit feel a little light-headed for a few seconds, but otherwise it made Kit feel a bit silly. Kit remembered that King Snake said that the breathing exercise needed to be done every day for at least three moons.

Kit also practiced walking quietly and softly. Because of this, Kit was beginning to find a lot more animals. That was encouraging, but still the animals seemed to be of little help in finding the Spirit-Keeper. Just before bounding off, Jackrabbit said to Kit, “You’re better off avoiding that one! Nothing but trouble. Makes my head hurt!”

Kit was beginning to feel hopeless. Because of the hot sun, thirst was becoming a real concern. Thankfully, the now almost dry stream bed rounded a curve and opened up into a small pool. The water was clear and right there was a nice fat fish!

Slowly and calmly Kit slipped into the pool and caught that fish. Kit was certainly used to eating raw fish. But, standing there in the water, Kit thought it would be wonderful to lay that fish out on the flat rocks just above the pool. Kit could drink water and enjoy sitting in the pool while that fish cooked a little on the sun-heated rocks.

One of the things Kit missed about living with humans was fire-cooked food. Kit opened up the fish and placed it on the hot rocks. Sliding back into the pool, Kit marveled at how good that water tasted! Kit’s headache went away. Kit’s muscles felt better. The cool feeling of water on skin was very welcome.

Much refreshed Kit stood up to reach that fish and was stunned to see nothing but empty rock!

Kit couldn’t believe it. This was so unfair. Just when things were looking up, it now felt like this entire quest was impossible. Kit began to feel scared. It was too hard to live in this land, especially all alone. Kit began to softly cry.

Kit started to feel overwhelmed. Kit sat back down in the water and decided to try some Snake-at-Rest breathing. That actually seemed to help. Certainly Kit felt much calmer.

Kit climbed out of the pool to look again at that empty rock. This time Kit noticed some tracks from the rock leading around a large boulder. Quietly, Kit crawled around that boulder – and almost bumped heads with a large coyote!

Kit Learns Snake-at-Rest Breathing from King Snake

Part 4 of the Two-Wolves Story Arc

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Kit was anxious about setting out alone for the South-lands. But Kit felt inspired by Eagle. Eagle had helped Kit see that Fear-of-The-Cold and Fear-of-Being-Alone were powerful in the lives of all beings.

Eagle also helped Kit see how the Gifts of Respect and Love could provide balance. With a strong sense of balance, fears that are part of all people will not cause too much instability.

So, on a beautiful sunny day, with an adventurous heart, Kit set out. Kit was determined to find the Spirit-Keeper of the South and learn more about the 7 Fears and the 7 Gifts.

Kit followed the mid-day sun. Before long Kit came to a river that was heading south as well. Kit was excellent at catching fish. Kit had learned how to combine techniques remembered from living with humans and skills that Bear had fostered. Everyone knew Bear was a master at catching fish!

Kit walked this path for many days and saw how gradually the river faded, the land became increasingly dry, and the trees practically disappeared. Kit saw tracks for many small animals, such as lizards, but rarely saw one.

Being alone began to wear on Kit. Kit was beginning to fear that there would not be enough water or food here in the South-lands. The sun was so hot that it became difficult to even think!

A tired Kit was turning over rocks, looking for something to eat. Suddenly a massive surge of energy – time appeared to slow, sounds became hollow – Kit’s face was inches from a huge snake!

Fearsome, Courageous and the Deadly Fire

Part 3 of the Two-Wolves Story Arc

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“Did Eagle help you see more clearly what Raven meant about the two wolves that live inside all human beings?” Bear asked Kit.

“I think so,” said Kit. “Eagle explained that the wolf called Fearsome will feed upon the 7 Fears of all People, while the wolf called Courageous will feed upon the 7 Gifts of the Elders.”

“Eagle has always been one to see the big picture and the details. What did Eagle have to say about the Fears and the Gifts?”, asked Bear.

“Eagle spoke about Fear-of-The-Cold, which is the fear that you will not thrive or even survive the basic challenges of the world. It is the fear we feel when everything is not perfect around us. Eagle also spoke about Fear-of-Being-Alone, which is the fear that no one else will be there to help you. It is the fear that you will be abandoned.”

“What of the 7 Gifts?” asked Bear.

“Eagle spoke about the Gifts of Respect and Love. Others can treat us with respect. They can see that we all have needs. We all need shelter, water, food, and warmth. Others can help us feel loved so that even when we are alone we still know that we belong to a larger group that will look out for us.”

“That makes sense,” said Bear. “And it fits with a story that I’ve heard about the wolves Fearsome and Courageous…

“Long ago there was a great council of wolves. The alpha wolf had died. There were two wolves that the others looked to as the next possible alpha, the next pack leader, Fearsome and Courageous.

“The wolves met at their council spot and debated who should lead them. So caught up were they in considering the merits of following Fearsome or Courageous, that they were stunned to realize that a deadly forest fire had almost surrounded their meeting spot!

“We must flee!, screamed Fearsome. The fire will choke our lungs! It’s heat will pull the water from our bodies! It’s flames will burn our fur and flesh!

“Stop and think!, called out Courageous. If we stay calm and stay together there is a path for all of us to escape to safety!

“I am leaving now!, growled Fearsome. Unless you wish to die alone, you will follow me!

“You are my beloved brothers and sisters, said Courageous. None will be left alone. We must stay together.

“With the smell of smoke beginning to fill the air, Fearsome took off. A group of other wolves quickly followed.

“Stalker, said Courageous. You are our greatest scout. You will take point and find the path to safety. Swift Runner and Fleet Foot, you are our fastest warriors. You will stay on the flanks and guard any who might lose the path. The rest will stay in the middle, especially our younger wolves and cubs. I will go last. Look out for one another. No one gets left behind. We will all find safety together. Let’s go!

“When Courageous, and all those who ran with Courageous, reached safety, across a wide river, they found Fearsome and some of the other wolves already on the other side. Sadly, three of the wolves that tried to follow Fearsome became separated and lost. Later, their bodies would be found where they fell to the fire….”

“You and Eagle have given me a lot to think about,” said Kit. “What of the other Fears and Gifts? What else feeds Fearsome and Courageous?”

“Eagle has given you the big picture,” said Bear. “Now you must seek out the Spirit-Keeper of the South to discover more about the 7 Fears and the 7 Gifts.”

“Who is the Spirit-Keeper of the South and how do I find that person?” asked Kit.

“Head to the south-lands. I’m sure if you ask around you’ll find the Spirit-Keeper. Remember, all the animals promised to help you. Be like Eagle. Find the high places and look for the big picture. Then focus in on the details. Pay attention and you will discover more of what it means to be a human being. Come back and share what you learn.”

Kit Asks Eagle About the Two Wolves

Part 2 of The Two-Wolves Story Arc

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After hearing from Raven that two wolves live inside all human beings, Kit was feeling confused.

“Bear,” said Kit, “I’ve been thinking about what Raven said about two wolves, Fearsome and Courageous, battling inside all human beings. You said that whichever one you feed will eventually win.”

“Well… seems to me that whichever one gets the most food will become the strongest,” said Bear. “But, I must admit that I don’t understand how two wolves, even if they were very tiny, could fit inside your body!”

“Silly Bear. I know that Raven didn’t mean real wolves.”

“Raven is a tricky one. You always have to think long and hard about Raven’s teachings. Raven is a transformer and has a way of changing a person,” said Bear.

“Maybe I should ask Raven to explain?” said Kit.

“I think you’d be better off asking Eagle. Eagle is the Chief of All the Birds and Spirit-Keeper of the East. If anyone can make sense of Raven – it is Eagle,” said Bear.

“Okay,” said Kit, “how do I find Eagle?”

“Head east, toward the rising sun and look for the high spots. That’s where you’ll find Eagle.”

So Kit set out to ask Eagle about Raven’s two wolves.

Kit traveled to the East, and climbed the highest peaks. After a long climb, overlooking a tremendous view, Kit found Eagle. Kit shared what Raven had said about human beings having two wolves, Fearsome and Courageous, inside of them.

“I think Bear is right,” said Eagle. “Whichever one you feed will grow stronger. But what do these two wolves feed upon? I think that Fearsome must feed upon the 7 Fears. That means that Courageous must feed upon the 7 Gifts.”

“Chief Eagle, what are these 7 Fears and 7 Gifts?” asked Kit.

The Strategic Change Compass

The Strategic Change Compass - Part 3 of 3

Strategic Change Compass

Much of the power of the Bear Clan Meta-Compass comes from the process of taking diverse models and integrating them into a blended meta-model. It’s been my experience that this process has multiple benefits.

It makes it easier to remember key points of various models. It leads to insights about movement within a new change model. It leads to insights about how a new change model relates to other models (other compass levels within the Meta-Compass).

One of the themes readers will see within my writings is the integration of a professional business perspective with human service perspectives. What I consider to be the single most important teaching I received during my MBA training is a model for how to engage in strategic planning and strategic management.

Here in The Strategic Change Compass Part 3 of 3, I’m going to demonstrate how to take a change model, in this case one that isn’t from the field of psychology, and create a new level of the Bear Clan Meta-Compass.

If you’re blending in some perspective that’s not a complete change-model, then you can think about where it might fit in the Archetype Compass – The Chief, The Artist, The Scout, The Warrior. To some extent, that level of the Meta-Compass serves as a catch-all for a variety of concepts that make up the character of each archetype.

In Part 2 of The Strategic Change Compass, I introduced an 8-Step model for strategic planning and management:

(1) Clarify Principles (2) Create Shared Vision (3) Analysis (4) The Plan (5) Implementation (6) Reality Testing (7) Feedback and (8) Modification of The Plan.

To create a new compass level on the Meta-Compass it’s necessary to understand the qualities associated with each of the cardinal compass directions, and then assign the various stages to the appropriate direction. Movement within a compass level typically starts in either the North or the East and moves clockwise around the compass.

The North – Clarify Principles:

The North in Bear Clan is the realm of values and beliefs. It includes a person’s (or an organization’s) executive functions and skills. These include planning, organizing, time management, working memory, and meta-cognition. Those abilities allow for response inhibition, self-regulation of affect, task initiation, flexibility, and goal-directed persistence.

The Single Most-Powerful Process in Business (and How It Applies to Therapy)

The Strategic Change Compass - Part 2 of 3

The most important single thing I learned in business school is a strategic process for managing change. It works for creating change at the highest level executive functions within a business. It works for the most basic projects.

It also works in therapy.

Why does this transformation process work at all levels of business and even at the level of individual people?

Because organizations function in a manner that reflects how individuals function.

Strategic planning and management is a best-practices process for how to create and manage change. It’s a process for transforming an organization and it can also be a process for transforming an individual.

In this article, I’m going to present the basic strategic planning and management model, illustrating how it applies to therapy. However, if you’re involved at any level in leadership, management, or project and program development then this is a process you should know.

What people have discovered in studying business is that there is a basic strategy to creating transformational change. There’s a basic process to unifying people to all work together with the same purpose. While there are different models to strategic planning and management, the following diagram presents the basic approach that has proven itself to be effective over and over again:

Strategic Planning & Management Flow

Again, it doesn’t matter whether you’re at the highest level in a complex organization, or a therapist working with a single particular client. This model suggests certain steps and actions if you want to maximize your chances of being a successful change-agent.

Step 1: Principles

Establish and communicate the mission, values, and vision that are intended to drive and guide the change process. For a therapist,
that translates into early work that you do with a client to create a shared understanding of: