Kit Learns Coyote-Thinking

Part 5 of the Two-Wolves Story Arc

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Kit had been exploring the South-lands for many weeks. As the land changed, Kit stayed close to the few streams in the area. Every day Kit practiced Snake-at-Rest breathing. Kit saw few animals, but always asked for help in finding the Spirit-Keeper of the South. Unfortunately, no one pointed Kit in a particular direction.

Kit did get the impression that the Spirit-Keeper moved around a lot, but still didn’t even know which animal was the Spirit-Keeper of the South! Kit became more frustrated as the stream being followed became smaller and smaller.

Kit felt a lot of respect for King Snake and so practiced Snake-at-Rest breathing every day. Kit had to be patient because, to be honest, Kit didn’t really feel any different. Sometimes, it made Kit feel a little light-headed for a few seconds, but otherwise it made Kit feel a bit silly. Kit remembered that King Snake said that the breathing exercise needed to be done every day for at least three moons.

Kit also practiced walking quietly and softly. Because of this, Kit was beginning to find a lot more animals. That was encouraging, but still the animals seemed to be of little help in finding the Spirit-Keeper. Just before bounding off, Jackrabbit said to Kit, “You’re better off avoiding that one! Nothing but trouble. Makes my head hurt!”

Kit was beginning to feel hopeless. Because of the hot sun, thirst was becoming a real concern. Thankfully, the now almost dry stream bed rounded a curve and opened up into a small pool. The water was clear and right there was a nice fat fish!

Slowly and calmly Kit slipped into the pool and caught that fish. Kit was certainly used to eating raw fish. But, standing there in the water, Kit thought it would be wonderful to lay that fish out on the flat rocks just above the pool. Kit could drink water and enjoy sitting in the pool while that fish cooked a little on the sun-heated rocks.

One of the things Kit missed about living with humans was fire-cooked food. Kit opened up the fish and placed it on the hot rocks. Sliding back into the pool, Kit marveled at how good that water tasted! Kit’s headache went away. Kit’s muscles felt better. The cool feeling of water on skin was very welcome.

Much refreshed Kit stood up to reach that fish and was stunned to see nothing but empty rock!

Kit couldn’t believe it. This was so unfair. Just when things were looking up, it now felt like this entire quest was impossible. Kit began to feel scared. It was too hard to live in this land, especially all alone. Kit began to softly cry.

Kit started to feel overwhelmed. Kit sat back down in the water and decided to try some Snake-at-Rest breathing. That actually seemed to help. Certainly Kit felt much calmer.

Kit climbed out of the pool to look again at that empty rock. This time Kit noticed some tracks from the rock leading around a large boulder. Quietly, Kit crawled around that boulder – and almost bumped heads with a large coyote!

Kit Learns Snake-at-Rest Breathing from King Snake

Part 4 of the Two-Wolves Story Arc

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Kit was anxious about setting out alone for the South-lands. But Kit felt inspired by Eagle. Eagle had helped Kit see that Fear-of-The-Cold and Fear-of-Being-Alone were powerful in the lives of all beings.

Eagle also helped Kit see how the Gifts of Respect and Love could provide balance. With a strong sense of balance, fears that are part of all people will not cause too much instability.

So, on a beautiful sunny day, with an adventurous heart, Kit set out. Kit was determined to find the Spirit-Keeper of the South and learn more about the 7 Fears and the 7 Gifts.

Kit followed the mid-day sun. Before long Kit came to a river that was heading south as well. Kit was excellent at catching fish. Kit had learned how to combine techniques remembered from living with humans and skills that Bear had fostered. Everyone knew Bear was a master at catching fish!

Kit walked this path for many days and saw how gradually the river faded, the land became increasingly dry, and the trees practically disappeared. Kit saw tracks for many small animals, such as lizards, but rarely saw one.

Being alone began to wear on Kit. Kit was beginning to fear that there would not be enough water or food here in the South-lands. The sun was so hot that it became difficult to even think!

A tired Kit was turning over rocks, looking for something to eat. Suddenly a massive surge of energy – time appeared to slow, sounds became hollow – Kit’s face was inches from a huge snake!

Fearsome, Courageous and the Deadly Fire

Part 3 of the Two-Wolves Story Arc

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“Did Eagle help you see more clearly what Raven meant about the two wolves that live inside all human beings?” Bear asked Kit.

“I think so,” said Kit. “Eagle explained that the wolf called Fearsome will feed upon the 7 Fears of all People, while the wolf called Courageous will feed upon the 7 Gifts of the Elders.”

“Eagle has always been one to see the big picture and the details. What did Eagle have to say about the Fears and the Gifts?”, asked Bear.

“Eagle spoke about Fear-of-The-Cold, which is the fear that you will not thrive or even survive the basic challenges of the world. It is the fear we feel when everything is not perfect around us. Eagle also spoke about Fear-of-Being-Alone, which is the fear that no one else will be there to help you. It is the fear that you will be abandoned.”

“What of the 7 Gifts?” asked Bear.

“Eagle spoke about the Gifts of Respect and Love. Others can treat us with respect. They can see that we all have needs. We all need shelter, water, food, and warmth. Others can help us feel loved so that even when we are alone we still know that we belong to a larger group that will look out for us.”

“That makes sense,” said Bear. “And it fits with a story that I’ve heard about the wolves Fearsome and Courageous…

“Long ago there was a great council of wolves. The alpha wolf had died. There were two wolves that the others looked to as the next possible alpha, the next pack leader, Fearsome and Courageous.

“The wolves met at their council spot and debated who should lead them. So caught up were they in considering the merits of following Fearsome or Courageous, that they were stunned to realize that a deadly forest fire had almost surrounded their meeting spot!

“We must flee!, screamed Fearsome. The fire will choke our lungs! It’s heat will pull the water from our bodies! It’s flames will burn our fur and flesh!

“Stop and think!, called out Courageous. If we stay calm and stay together there is a path for all of us to escape to safety!

“I am leaving now!, growled Fearsome. Unless you wish to die alone, you will follow me!

“You are my beloved brothers and sisters, said Courageous. None will be left alone. We must stay together.

“With the smell of smoke beginning to fill the air, Fearsome took off. A group of other wolves quickly followed.

“Stalker, said Courageous. You are our greatest scout. You will take point and find the path to safety. Swift Runner and Fleet Foot, you are our fastest warriors. You will stay on the flanks and guard any who might lose the path. The rest will stay in the middle, especially our younger wolves and cubs. I will go last. Look out for one another. No one gets left behind. We will all find safety together. Let’s go!

“When Courageous, and all those who ran with Courageous, reached safety, across a wide river, they found Fearsome and some of the other wolves already on the other side. Sadly, three of the wolves that tried to follow Fearsome became separated and lost. Later, their bodies would be found where they fell to the fire….”

“You and Eagle have given me a lot to think about,” said Kit. “What of the other Fears and Gifts? What else feeds Fearsome and Courageous?”

“Eagle has given you the big picture,” said Bear. “Now you must seek out the Spirit-Keeper of the South to discover more about the 7 Fears and the 7 Gifts.”

“Who is the Spirit-Keeper of the South and how do I find that person?” asked Kit.

“Head to the south-lands. I’m sure if you ask around you’ll find the Spirit-Keeper. Remember, all the animals promised to help you. Be like Eagle. Find the high places and look for the big picture. Then focus in on the details. Pay attention and you will discover more of what it means to be a human being. Come back and share what you learn.”

Kit Asks Eagle About the Two Wolves

Part 2 of The Two-Wolves Story Arc

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After hearing from Raven that two wolves live inside all human beings, Kit was feeling confused.

“Bear,” said Kit, “I’ve been thinking about what Raven said about two wolves, Fearsome and Courageous, battling inside all human beings. You said that whichever one you feed will eventually win.”

“Well… seems to me that whichever one gets the most food will become the strongest,” said Bear. “But, I must admit that I don’t understand how two wolves, even if they were very tiny, could fit inside your body!”

“Silly Bear. I know that Raven didn’t mean real wolves.”

“Raven is a tricky one. You always have to think long and hard about Raven’s teachings. Raven is a transformer and has a way of changing a person,” said Bear.

“Maybe I should ask Raven to explain?” said Kit.

“I think you’d be better off asking Eagle. Eagle is the Chief of All the Birds and Spirit-Keeper of the East. If anyone can make sense of Raven – it is Eagle,” said Bear.

“Okay,” said Kit, “how do I find Eagle?”

“Head east, toward the rising sun and look for the high spots. That’s where you’ll find Eagle.”

So Kit set out to ask Eagle about Raven’s two wolves.

Kit traveled to the East, and climbed the highest peaks. After a long climb, overlooking a tremendous view, Kit found Eagle. Kit shared what Raven had said about human beings having two wolves, Fearsome and Courageous, inside of them.

“I think Bear is right,” said Eagle. “Whichever one you feed will grow stronger. But what do these two wolves feed upon? I think that Fearsome must feed upon the 7 Fears. That means that Courageous must feed upon the 7 Gifts.”

“Chief Eagle, what are these 7 Fears and 7 Gifts?” asked Kit.

The Strategic Change Compass

The Strategic Change Compass - Part 3 of 3

Strategic Change Compass

Much of the power of the Bear Clan Meta-Compass comes from the process of taking diverse models and integrating them into a blended meta-model. It’s been my experience that this process has multiple benefits.

It makes it easier to remember key points of various models. It leads to insights about movement within a new change model. It leads to insights about how a new change model relates to other models (other compass levels within the Meta-Compass).

One of the themes readers will see within my writings is the integration of a professional business perspective with human service perspectives. What I consider to be the single most important teaching I received during my MBA training is a model for how to engage in strategic planning and strategic management.

Here in The Strategic Change Compass Part 3 of 3, I’m going to demonstrate how to take a change model, in this case one that isn’t from the field of psychology, and create a new level of the Bear Clan Meta-Compass.

If you’re blending in some perspective that’s not a complete change-model, then you can think about where it might fit in the Archetype Compass – The Chief, The Artist, The Scout, The Warrior. To some extent, that level of the Meta-Compass serves as a catch-all for a variety of concepts that make up the character of each archetype.

In Part 2 of The Strategic Change Compass, I introduced an 8-Step model for strategic planning and management:

(1) Clarify Principles (2) Create Shared Vision (3) Analysis (4) The Plan (5) Implementation (6) Reality Testing (7) Feedback and (8) Modification of The Plan.

To create a new compass level on the Meta-Compass it’s necessary to understand the qualities associated with each of the cardinal compass directions, and then assign the various stages to the appropriate direction. Movement within a compass level typically starts in either the North or the East and moves clockwise around the compass.

The North – Clarify Principles:

The North in Bear Clan is the realm of values and beliefs. It includes a person’s (or an organization’s) executive functions and skills. These include planning, organizing, time management, working memory, and meta-cognition. Those abilities allow for response inhibition, self-regulation of affect, task initiation, flexibility, and goal-directed persistence.

The Single Most-Powerful Process in Business (and How It Applies to Therapy)

The Strategic Change Compass - Part 2 of 3

The most important single thing I learned in business school is a strategic process for managing change. It works for creating change at the highest level executive functions within a business. It works for the most basic projects.

It also works in therapy.

Why does this transformation process work at all levels of business and even at the level of individual people?

Because organizations function in a manner that reflects how individuals function.

Strategic planning and management is a best-practices process for how to create and manage change. It’s a process for transforming an organization and it can also be a process for transforming an individual.

In this article, I’m going to present the basic strategic planning and management model, illustrating how it applies to therapy. However, if you’re involved at any level in leadership, management, or project and program development then this is a process you should know.

What people have discovered in studying business is that there is a basic strategy to creating transformational change. There’s a basic process to unifying people to all work together with the same purpose. While there are different models to strategic planning and management, the following diagram presents the basic approach that has proven itself to be effective over and over again:

Strategic Planning & Management Flow

Again, it doesn’t matter whether you’re at the highest level in a complex organization, or a therapist working with a single particular client. This model suggests certain steps and actions if you want to maximize your chances of being a successful change-agent.

Step 1: Principles

Establish and communicate the mission, values, and vision that are intended to drive and guide the change process. For a therapist,
that translates into early work that you do with a client to create a shared understanding of:

The Bear Clan Path of The Chief (3)

The Practice Effect

To change your own brain, practice is essential.

This video explains how practicing something results in the same neural pathways in the brain being used. As these pathways experience more and more electrical activity, they grow larger and increase in their capacity to carry a charge.

We all know that practicing a behavior makes it easier to do that behavior.

It works the same way for emotions and cognitions.

The more we experience specific emotional states, the easier it becomes to enter those states. “Practice” being angry, and you get “better” at being angry. You’ll be able to get angry more easily.

“Practice” various negative thoughts, and those thoughts will more easily pop into your head.

So make sure you practice positive feelings and positive thoughts.

When Deer Had Rabbit Clear the Brambles

The Strategic Change Compass - Part 1 of 3

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One day Deer went to Chief Buffalo with a problem. “Chief Buffalo,” said Deer, “there is an important part of the forest that is so thick with brambles that it forces the deer into just a few paths. This makes it too easy for wolves to catch us. What can be done about this?”

Buffalo thought about this for a bit and said, “I am a creature of the open plains. While it is true that I am Chief of all the hooved animals, you, Deer, must act as a chief for the forest animals. Who among the forest animals is going to want to help you with your wolf problem? You should ask that animal for help. A Chief needs to be able to delegate.”

“That is a very good idea,” said Deer, excited at the prospect of being able to delegate this problem to someone else. “I will ask Rabbit. I’ve noticed that Rabbit spends a lot of time in the brambles, hiding from the wolves.”

The next day Deer went and spoke to Rabbit about the problem created by the brambles. Rabbit pointed out that one reason the paths through the brambles remain clear is because rabbits will eat the young vegetation that sprouts up along the path edges. However, to completely clear out the brambles would be a huge job and would require a lot more rabbits.

Deer went back to Chief Buffalo for more advice.

“I think that you need help in learning how to manage a project and how to delegate,” said Chief Buffalo. “It is important that you have a clear understanding of your values and what you wish to achieve.”

“That’s simple enough,” said Deer. “I want to get rid of those brambles.”

“I thought you said the problem was the wolves finding it too easy to catch you deer?” asked Buffalo.

“Oh, I see what you mean,” said Deer, who was becoming very excited at the idea of acting like a chief. “What else do I need to do to delegate this problem?

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The Four Parts of the Brain

Any journey, whether physical or one of inner transformation, can go better with a bit of preparation.

In the language of Cognitive Psychology, the Path of The Chief is the path toward strengthening the brain’s executive skills. These brain functions include things like planning, working memory, metacognition, response inhibition, task initiation, goal-directed persistence, and especially self-regulation of feelings, thoughts, and behaviors. See the Bear Clan Domain Compass for a fuller explanation.

In the language of Depth Psychology, the Path of The Chief is the path toward strengthening the archetype of The Chief. People are born with an innate, universal, and hereditary understanding of various concepts. Archetypes are like phone apps or computer subroutines or even sub-personalities.

These mental constructs are in charge of different aspects of our minds. It can be an unruly collection of different “voices” that we all, at times, have speaking in our head. It’s The Chief’s job to plan, organize, coordinate, and lead the parts of the brain that are in charge of emotions, cogntions, and behaviors.

In the language of Shamanism, the Path of the Chief begins in the East, the domain of Eagle (see the Shaman’s Compass). We begin with trying to give a client a vision of where the journey is headed. This vision needs to be inspiring enough to provide some sense of hope and motivation to walk the path, to do the work. We begin to tell the story of the heroic journey that is about to commence.

The Bear Clan Path of The Chief (1)

The First Step - Make a Decision

Welcome to The Bear Clan Path of The Chief Video series!

This video’s an introduction to the series. The material in this series is designed to:

  • reinforce teachings for students I’m currently mentoring.
  • give child therapists and other helping professionals a chance to see one way to present Bear Clan teachings to kids.
  • present Bear Clan teachings in a style that is intended for kids.